All of them. My several kids are teenagers, my job is over an hour commute (and I can't find anything closer) and my spouse is working full time and taking night classes. I am pooped.
I used to homebrew beer, bake bread, 3d print, and far more.
I'm in a similar boat. Over an hour commute, younger kids with afterschool activities 4 days a week. A wife has a full-time job, luckily, she finally finished her master' so we reclaimed Saturdays and I'm not running the taxi service solo.
Shit is exhausting, but I am glad our daughters got to see their mom a accomplished something so huge, and I'm proud to have supported her along the way.
Now that you mention it, I think I still have a case of 3 year old homebrew in the basement.
Haha, similarly, I have 2 carboys in the garage that are over a year old.
I may take long breaks, but I've never fully given up on a hobby.
I haven't played airsoft in a couple of years. Mostly because I don't have the time anymore. I used to play about once a month, but then I had to move to a different town, so now my preferred field is ~80 miles away.
If I'm using half a tank of gas just to go there and back, I want to make it an all-day thing. But I also travel for work nowadays, I'm only home most weekends. Taking my guns and gear on the road with me isn't really an option; space on my work truck is at a premium, and it wouldn't look good for me, if a DOT or customs agent were to stumble across an M60 machine gun during a level 1 truck inspection. I also have yet to find any airsoft fields that allow 18-wheeler parking. My truck couldn't physically fit on the driveway to my preferred field.
Spending a day playing airsoft means I've only got one other day, if that, to do my chores and run my errands for that week, to say nothing of how physically demanding the game is. If I push myself too hard while playing (something else that happens when I've only got a couple days at home per month), I end up needing the following day just to recover.
I'd pick it up again if I ever get a regular 9-5 job though, or at least something that gets me home every night.
I really liked the larping aspect of airsoft. I might consider getting back into it if there was a group of only adult players but the average age in the local events is probably like 13 and I can't handle that.
Oh yes, larping is my favorite part too. I like to get a bit weird with it though, milsim events are a bit too serious for my liking. Same with speedsofters.
My go-to garb is a thrift shop 3-piece suit, and my most-used guns are pistols and small SMGs. I stick out like a sore thumb playing outdoors.
If you're ever anywhere near Dallas, D14 is a solid field for outdoor games. I'd also recommend CavTac or Alternate Arms, both near Fort Worth, for indoor games.
movies, performances, restaurants, basically anything involves going out and spending money
they all go way too expensive to justify anymore. everything is like $100 minimum to leave the house. even a coffee and a pastry is now 10-15 dollars and all the cafes near me have like 15m seating time limits they enforce.
i miss being able to spend an afternoon someplace for like 20 bucks. so now i'm either in the woods, which is still free, or at home cooking and watching TV
15 minutes sitting time limits, wtf. In Spain they would go broke in a week.
Tabletop RPGs. I'm sick of DND. Hard to find good groups for other games. There's a meetup I go to every once in a while but I want a regular group building a big story together
Are you me? I played a ton of dnd, got burned out, now trying smaller different rpg systems. I particularly like Lancer right now and there is a strong online presence for it
Depending on what you're parts of D&D you're sick of Pathfinder 2e can be refreshing and relatively easy to find groups for, otherwise I've found if you want to play something else you probably have to run it yourself.
I hear pathfinder 2e is a big improvement, but still has some of the stuff I'm sick of.
- rolling a single die means flat probability. Equal odds of getting the worst or best possible outcome
- spells per day is anti-fun for me. I want to do cool stuff, not feel pressured to hold onto it "in case I need it later"
- class and level is very coarse, and makes some concepts impractical, impossible, or awkward to execute
- I'm not as interested in "numbers go up big" anymore, and that's kind of the default.
- I'm not really in the mood for fantasy. I'd rather do modern day occult
For the first point, you could use a random generator and make it pick from a Gaussian or Poisson or other probability distribution depending on the situation.
For the rest, I do not know. I have been wanting to play a tabletop game with my board game group. But knowing them, I would have to be dungeon master and that seems intimidating since I have never played before.
For the first point, you could use a random generator and make it pick from a Gaussian or Poisson or other probability distribution depending on the situation.
Many RPGs that aren't so closely related to DND use a dice pool. Instead of like 1d20, you might roll 3d6. Now you're more likely to get an average result. Only one way to roll 3, but a bunch of ways to roll 10.
The nWoD games you roll d10s and count how many come up 8,9, 10. Very fast, and once you're good at a task you know you'll generally succeed. It's more a question of how well you'll succeed and how strong the opposition is.
I'm not mathy enough to talk beyond that, but I find it much more satisfying.
Playing under someone more experienced can build confidence, but the only way to learn how to run a ttrpg is to start running one. Find some one page RPGs with really simple rules that can be learnt in a few minutes and played over an hour or two. No one has to invest in anything, you can switch between different ones to find what people like, and there's no pressure to keep running a campaign if you find it too much. Once you have an idea of what it's like running a game you and your friends can decide if you want to play a long adventure.
PF2e does a surprisingly good job at both unequaling the odds with it's degrees of success mechanic and making class and level a much more flexible system through feats, but probably not to the degree you're wanting, and I can't argue with the rest.
Delta Green isn't a perfect fit for your requirements as it uses a single die, but it's degrees of success system also unequals the odds, so it might still work for you. VtM and it's relatives are probably a better fit, but I personally find them a bit melodramatic. I've found it pretty easy to find a VtM group by hanging around Goths, but haven't had any luck with Delta Green yet.
I had a really fun game of Vampire back in like 2016. I'd love to have another go at that, or Mage. The dice pool system always felt simple but exciting. Characters started out competent and being able to buy individual skills or powers was more satisfying than waiting for whole levels.
I've heard good things about Delta green, but never looked into it.
Alas, my college days where "hey you look nerdy you wanna play vampire?" are long gone.
Gaming
It's not even because of a bad thing there, it's just that my now wife and I spend so much time together that we don't really have time for much else
Me with ADHD: Where should i start? Alphabeticly, Chronologicly, Amount i spend on it? deep breath
Animation Drawing Painting Gaming Steampunk propbuilding Making a study of why union numbers are down in germany and is there a link to american culture influence Classic theater acting and playing instrument (i just dont find anywhere and for the last 4-5 years didnt have time due to job so i dropped it but to get back into it i have to train my entire lip tension back up, also i noticed last year as i unpacked my insttumend for one hour to see if i still go it, i apperently positioned the mouth piece wrong all those many 14+ years! Nobody ever corrected me!!) Sound design (but i might pick that back up due to creating video games and mods) Cosplaying Singing Story writing
Admittedly, D&D (and other TTRPGs)
I used to do a lot of DMing but its a lot of work to keep the campaign up, dealing with players who just don't show, and a million other frustrations.
I reached a point where I finally stopped and said "Am I even having fun playing this?" The answer ended up being generally, no.
I dm'ed for a family game (adult sibs and in-laws), thinking it'd be the easiest to schedule. Nope, I got tired of nagging about the next game, couldn't help but interpret it as them not caring enough, and now just listen to naddpod and wait for my kids to grow up enough to play. I miss the table
Were you a "forever DM"?
I was, yes.
I've read a lot that this generally puts a strain on things.
If you ever consider getting back into it, maybe suggest making DM'ing a rotating role? After all, it pays off to understand the role of the DM as a player too, and premade adventures can serve as a good way to ease into the role by taking the strain of world building from budding DMs. And even then, you could still play a supportive role for them at first so they can get the hang of things.
And if your players refuse to do that, then simply ask them to look for another DM. Your role as a DM is scarce, so you have all of the bargaining power. And why should you respect players that don't respect your role?
Its a potential though nowadays I'd have to somehow find a few hours a month to even get to play lol.
I used to do a lot of DMing but its a lot of work to keep the campaign up, dealing with players who just don’t show, and a million other frustrations.
Where on earth did people get the idea that D&D is for pasty-faced socially anxious nerds? I looked into TTRPGs as a hobby back in 2019 and determined it was too socially involved for me.
I think its more mainstream now, but looking for players ~2 decades ago, it was generally only socially anxious nerds who were interested in the idea. (At least around here)
I've seen some players prefer a 'back seat' and not engage too heavily in the social part of the game and watch others do that role, which is fine, but I could see where they'd probably prefer different types of games altogether.
I stopped doing Brazilian JiuJitsu after I got injured like 3 times over 6 months where as I've been lifting weights for 15 years and haven't gotten injured once. It was fun but I don't want to do it at the expense of my health. Also there's always the one guy who takes it too seriously and ruins it for everyone else.
Gaming is another one. I get into it for a month about once a year but I'm just not particularly drawn to it anymore.
I have deliberately taken a break from painting, because we adopted a kitten and I am waiting for him to become less of a feline tornado before I break the acrylics out again
probably a good idea lmao
Beer brewing. I simply do not have the time. Or energy.
None.
I mean, nearing my 60s, I've already trimmed down a lot of my hobbies. For example, since my childhood I have been on and off into plastic models (small plastic planes and vehicles to glue and to paint) but I let go of that hobby completely maybe 4 years ago. It still liked it, I just had to decide where I really wanted to spend that time, and I had other things to do.
What won't go away, for as long as I'm able to at least, is reading/writing, sketching and painting (watercolor), long walks, listening (playing too, but barely) to music, and making stuff with my hands.
I don’t foresee myself coming back to the comic universe any day soon.
I don't know your age but don't be surprised if that does not go as planned. I will stick to my plastic model hobby: I had been off for almost 20 years at one time, I was just too busy after College but then, one day, out of the blue, and certainly not thinking the slightest about plastic kits, I stumbled upon a shiny box in some shop, looked at it and felt a familiar thrill in my spine, thinking this, I would like to build and paint I put it back on the shelves, could not resit going back to look at it after I finished shopping, put it in the cart with some glue and paint and, well, I was back at it ;)
Stepmania but only because I need a new pad now that the old one is too much a pain in the ass to fix and have it working properly.
Any ideas where to get a good pad? I had ordered one but the pads were actually depressable buttons so it was kinda hard to actually play on it, super tiring.
I've had my eye on a L-tek recently
I highly recommend L-TEK if your budget allows: https://www.iamats.com/
I have one for DDR and one for PIU, both have been great.
I've been looking at them for months and I still don't understand the difference between the three models, prime, core, pro.
Any advice would be appreciated
The main difference seems to be that the Prime model includes start/select buttons. I use a keyboard for navigation so that hasn't been a big deal for me, mine is the EX Pro. There's a detailed comment here for additional differences (sorry it's on reddit): https://old.reddit.com/r/DanceDanceRevolution/comments/1iqrrtn/new_and_clueless/md33x8k/
Thanks that was very helpful. So the pro is a previous model with core and prime being the current ones.
I also use a keyboard for navigation, I guess I'll be fine with the core then. Thanks again, I'll probably get one soon.
Magic the gathering. I haven't really been much interested in playing current stuff since they started doing universes beyond. I'll still keep my cube put together, and I still think commander is fun. I just am really not interested in playing what's essentially just ads for another IP.
Also the sheer amount of sets WoTC is putting out nowadays, it’s insane! A new release used to be a big deal and worth looking forward to, now it’s just exhausting.
I've been away from ham radio for a while now. Thanks to hanging out with primarily older hams I know this is a common thing. I know folks who got licensed as kids, got out of it for 30 years, then came back after they retired. Unfortunately the hobby is extremely expensive so there's a a temptation to force myself into it because I spent all this money. Right now I'm just looking at other areas within the amateur radio space that I haven't explored, like radio direction finding (aka fox hunting).
As for comics, I can't possibly imagine enjoying them. I like deep, and more importantly consistent, worldbuilding more than characters, so the constant reboots and alternate continuities would frustrate me. I bounced hard off of Transformers because it's merch driven and it shows in the messy lore.
I've only seen one Marvel movie (Iron Man 2) and I'm still exhausted by osmosis. Luckily it seems like this nearly two decade long trend is finally dying. I count the start of the superhero movie trend with the first X-men movie. The fad was already getting old in the mid 2000s, and I can't believe it managed to last this long.
I haven't been on the air in a while either. My dipole antennas are out of commission right now because the stakes came out of the ground, and now I have my antennas tangled in the tree and I will need to take them down in order to untangle them.
If you are into HF, we are basically at solar maximum right now, so it is a great time to get some DXing in.
I'm quite currious (not enough to get into the hobby) what does one do with Ham radio? Is it just talking to other people over the radio or what?
Mostly, though you have to remember ham radio is the progenitor of all the other electronics hobbies. RadioShack was founded all the way back in the 1920s, and is named thus because a shack is where you put your radio equipment, even if it's just a table in the corner of the living room. Casual intercontinental communication was out of reach of most until the internet, and casual mobile communication until CB radio, which was itself repurposed spectrum formerly occupied by hams. Older folks are still in it for the "talk around the world" angle, but younger hams have other motivations now that it's no longer novel.
It's a broad hobby. I myself enjoy satellite communications as well as packet radio. I got a web server working over VHF AX.25. There's also AREDN and other mesh networks like Meshtastic.
In the end the best way I've heard the hobby summed up is "It doesn't matter what we're communicating, only that we communicate". Having a robust globe-spanning network of stations that uses no intervening infrastructure has an appeal all its own. I like the fact that I can generate a varying voltage in a long copper wire that induces the same varying voltage in another long copper wire somewhere halfway around the world with no cell towers or satellites.
I like the fact that I can generate a varying voltage in a long copper wire that induces the same varying voltage in another long copper wire somewhere halfway around the world with no cell towers or satellites.
That does make it sound pretty fucking cool tbh.
been away from ham for a while too. during covid i realized i could snatch up my very long dead grandfather’s call sign, so i went from one that shows i am tech no code to general, “n1….” to “ka1…”
i want to get a mobile in my car but its a jeep. easy to steal from.
and most of my radio work these days is as a firefighter on non ham bands anyway. :/
I mean I guess technically racing motorcycles. However it's more of a circumstance thing, getting back into it would take, pretty easily, almost $10k. So I'm getting into MTB and BMX instead now. I absolutely will be back into it the second I'm able to though, up until very recently, I'd spent more years on a motorcycle than off of one. Age 4 to probably 23 I raced. 0-4 and 23-35 I haven't. Miss it dearly every day, but I'm still very involved in it when I can watch it in-person.
Video games, 3D printing, and movies/television.
Modern video games are nothing more than a linear hand holding experience with hours of pre-rendered cut scenes. If I am interested in a game, I watch a streamer play it long enough for me to be bored then I read the plot on Wikipedia.
I used to have multiple 3d printers going. But after one broke down, I didn’t have the motivation to fix it.
Movies and television shows are the same slop with tired tropes. I watched Con Air with my son the other day and he was amazed with the difference between the acting and presentation in the 1990s compared to today.
I used to have multiple 3d printers going. But after one broke down, I didn’t have the motivation to fix it.
I'm in this awkward position with my 3D printing journey. I bought an A1 Mini in 2024 as a toe in the water for the hobby. I've used it many times for fun and practical things (even printed a surprisingly good door jam because we keep losing them at work). But the mini is so, well, mini. I want a bigger printer, particularly with an enclosure, but I'm not sure I use the mini enough to justify it, and I certainly don't have the space for two printers.
I meant to buy the regular A1, but put the wrong item in my cart. That's the 1-2 punch of ADHD and blindness for you.
Have you tried multi color prints? Those are fun especially when you think of all the different filament that’s out there.
All of them.
Sorry that's a bit glum but that's how it is.
I've got a lot going on.
Movies. The plots are all the same. It's most drivel. And it's too expensive. Tickets are reasonable but popcorn, drinks, etc? Also streaming is becoming too much money.
TV. Too much and I can't keep up.
It's expensive to much of anything these days. It's also unsafe to do things. I already have fears as a black guy with this political climate, but my daughter is half black, half Puerto Rican, and is about to hit puberty...
Sickos prey on little girls so it's like I can't just take her anywhere.
And this is why this 40's male here mainly plays video games after work and plays Legos with his kiddo.
The anxiety about our climate sucks, man, sorry. Definitely not enough places for kids. I go for walks with my daughter sometimes. Library isn't a bad option either
I was an avid RPG player, collecting games and running with friends at clubs and stores and everybody's houses. But as many of these friends have fallen away and trends have shifted, and as I get older it's harder to make new friends for hanging out, I need to start reevaluating my hobby.
Gaming.
Don't have the mental energy for it anymore... depression...
I was super into the Star wars unlimited tcg, but I've really fallen off. Just didn't find the play lines interesting. Now I'm getting back into Netrunner which you can play for free online.
Omg netrunner is the best card dueler I've ever played! I only played the physical version for like 2 years but it blew me away with it's level of asymmetry and innovative mechanics that blended right in with the theme.
Not a huge fan of how bloated the card pool became and how they shifted away from the bluffing aspect of the game in later sets.
Hope they do an official reboot at some point!
Is basketball a hobby? I have been playing less and less the past couple of years. With my knee and back problems becoming more frequent now, I decided it was time to quit. The only time I’ll probably play is with my highschool friends who are at the same level of fitness and physicality, and we meet only every few years or so. I can’t show up at the rec center to play with randos anymore, because you never know how hard people play, and I can’t keep up anymore.
Magic the Gathering. I love the game but it just seems that something always take priority. Hanging out with my wife, working on the house, or playing video games with some friends of mine.
I'm glad that I've stayed away from the release cycle of a new set every month. That would have been tiring.
I dont play my bass hardly anymore. My hands got bad, and idk. Used to play for hours each day, and now I pick it up twice a year.
Used to hike twice a week at least too, but I havnt gone in years at this point.
I do, yes, feel like im dying. Been putting music on while im home alone more often, its helping a bit, least ive started to dance again.
I stopped playing bass seriously about 8 - 9 years ago. Small child and renovating an old house while working full time with a 45 minute commute.
I only picked upy bass from time to time to play a song or riff or two. During the last year or two I often thought "I should do this again", but never followed through.
A few weeks ago a colleague of mine said his band is looking for a bass player and would I be interested. I told them that I was more than rusty, but if they'd give me a chance I would listen to their stuff and learn a few songs. In an hour I leave for the first meeting and rehearsal. This was the push I needed, I don't know if I would have started again on my own.
As for the hiking, a "outdoors youtuber" I like was just talking about this, people not going outside anymore. He said to put a date in your phone calendar and then actually go on this date - for him this works because it gives him this little nudge.
Hang in there, hopefully the dancing is just the start.
I dont go hiking because of laziness. I no longer have a car to get anywhere.
good shit for your bassist inspo, thats dope!
Tbh, more less gaming
I would game all day and night but these days , I just have no energy for games and would blatantly decline invitations regarding it ()
I feel the same. Not the energie, more that i cant be bothered anymore. Even single player doesnt feel fun anymore. And it just...happened out of no where
Comics aren’t just Marvel and DC. Check out Image, Boom Studios, Ablaze, Oni, and whatever the hell Vertigo is now. Pick up Something is Killing the Children or Department of Truth (both by James Tynion, but I like most everything he does). Look for Hopeless Savages and We Only Find Them When They’re Dead. Go read Scott Pilgrim, Locke and Key, Deadly Class, Resident Alien, Die, or Phonogram. There is so much out there that doesn’t have to do with dudes in tights fighting each other. You’ve got a lot to explore once you get away from Summer Crisis Events.
Gaming, it's so hard not to view it as a complete waste of time at my age. But all my social life is driven through it. So I'm playing games to hangout with friends but the entire time I'm bored of the game and resenting spending my time and energy on it.
I've found that it's specifically long games I hate. I don't have 60 hours to devote to some JRPG anymore like I did in high school. I walked away from both Baldur's Gate 3 and FF VII remake for this. Also in BG3's case, they frontload a ton of decision making, specifically character creation, that I can't be bothered to slog through, especially when I have no idea what half the options are.
Now I love playing games I know I can finish in one or two sittings. Gato Roboto is an excellent example of a game that doesn't overstay its welcome. Old NES and Game Boy games as well. The first Portal is also nice and compact.
Yeah, been wanting to try baldurs gate but I know I'm going to feel like its too much of a commitment and time sink. I mostly stick to indie games, short and often better than AAA for my taste at least.
I don't know of any short games I barely play single player. For me the only games I enjoy are sandbox games and competitive multiplayer. I cannot deal with how boring it is to play against ai enemies but at the same time it takes so much regular playing and even some studying to maintain being good at a multiplayer game and when you switch the learning curve is brutal.
I've defintely stopped reading the comic universes because it gets too much. You can't just grab a new issue and read it anymore. Doesn't matter whether marvel or DC. Every comic is connect to 20 other comics and you need to read Deadpool, Dr Strange and 10 others in order to have the back story of one Spiderman issue. When I read comics it's the independent artists that can finish a story within one or two volumes. Same goes for SciFi and Fantasy novels. Too many SciFi novels out there that are this epic 20 volume complex world building saga. Just give me a story that is finished in one book.
Also knitting. Good yarn has become so expensive.
Gaming, though im trying to get back into it. I used to be an ultimate raider in ffxiv. Some of my friends are starting back up so i might join them. Time has been harder to find as ive been slipping into work all the time more and more as more gets thrown at my plate.
Same. I'm either working at work, or doing chores, or doing different work on the house / car partly as a hobby, working out, hanging out with friends, whatever.
I feel like I can't fit it in here anymore :-/
I wish we all had more time to be human.
Anything to do with Warhammer 40k after being into it for decades, even playing competitively, going to the big info dump events, weekly gaming with friends, etc.
I still have all my models, tens of thousands of points in multiple armies, just lost all desire to play with the newer rulesets as they became too simplified and even more focused on buffing the latest new shiny models stats. Plus latest models are often very limited poses, sure the overall detail is up but the scope for personalization is way down without major work.
Then due to infighting the Horus Heresy line of rules and models got intentionally road blocked after Blighs death, which I had been relying on as a more crunchy outlet and to protect my investment in my models.
Oh, and they started the long road to sunset normal Marine models, which when you have over 50k points of marines you collected and painted over the past 35 years stings more than a little.
For the company its been an enormous success, sales are hugely up, so I don't begrudge them too much after the mismanagement of Kirby post LotR.
Re: Comics
I've gone through phases of the same. Just give it time, something will come along that catches your eye. For me, it was a bunch of indie comics. Look into the more indie publishers, and you'll find something you like.
There's a lot of good stories out there, just not in the mainstream Marvel/DC universe.
Playing the piano. Not because I don't like it. I just found it to be another thing I mostly do alone and I have more than enough hobbies where I do that already and enjoy more. Instead I picked up some hobbies to do with friends.
This year I've hardly watched any movies on my own so far. I think my other hobbies simply demand more time and there is nothing I urgently want to watch currently. Even the movies I only slightly desire to watch are just some of my favorite movies like Akahige that I haven't seen in a long time.