You know it when you see it.
The trashiest thing to me is a loud vehicle being revved and driven by a total asshole
Oh. That was me. Sorry.
I like to yell "Sorry about your small wiener!"
Fake opulence. Example: donald trump. Gold gilded everything in extreme excess. Properties that look like a "B" movie cheesy bordello. Trying to be 'hip, flashy cool, in'. And looking ultra cringe trying.
Non-political example: Big ass, loud, overly decked-out truck. Raised up adds 10,000 points, diesel adds 1 million points.
People who are actually classy don't have to try. And being classy was never their goal. Trashy takes a lot of effort.
Trying to be ‘hip, flashy cool, in’. And looking ultra cringe trying.
'Trashy' was a word I'd formerly associated only with trailer parks, and wouldn't have associated with Elon Musk, but some of the examples in this thread have expanded my view!
Private conversations in public at a volume that ensures everyone knows your business.
Similarly, speaking at full volume on your phone in public.
And the phone is on speaker! Motherfucker, you can hear it better when it's not on speaker and is pressed against your ear!
I actually have trouble understanding anything on the phone if it's not on speaker, but I still don't use it that way in public.
Easy – leopard print clothing.
I always thought that as well, but my opinion changed when I had to dress for a pretty formal office. Leopard print (in the form of a cardigan or scarf or something similar) lets you bridge the gap between black and brown so you don’t need to buy new, matching clothing and shoes. I still didn’t feel comfortable enough with it to actually wear it, but I don’t have catty (sorry) thoughts when I see leopard print anymore.
Actually, now that I think about it, that made it fall out of my personal definition of trashy, but might make it trashier for some people.
Ooh I am trashy as heck then, and proudly so. My favorite shirt, and the one I get compliments on, is silk leopard print button-up, it's gorgeous.
I think trashy is behavior not style. Loud and messy and yelling at servers; behavior that indicates a lack of awareness of the feelings of anyone else around you.
Lack of respect for other people, though it's really usually just a mild annoyance.
Any publicly displayed religious / political mashup. I'm thinking specifically of those "stand for the flag, kneel for the cross" bumper stickers but there's other stuff in that category too. It seems to indicate a person who can't think in terms other than tribalism.
As a Christian myself, 10,000x this. SO much.
I really can't stand the hypocrisy of America-brand Christianity: swearing oaths to a star-spangled idol is not following Christ.
I often wonder, if they walk past a church that has a cross motif, do they stop and kneel?
Arguing loudly in public. Like having a fight on your front lawn or at a restaurant.
Being a Karen. Very often because it turns into the aforementioned arguing loudly in public but also just the general Karen attitude of how they treat people is trashy.
Rolling coal.
Having a gigantic pickup truck without a need for its towing or hauling capabilities.
Having tons of political affiliation things on your car. Both ways. Not just MAGA. I'd be equally concerned if I saw someone in a tiny smart car flying Bernie Sanders flags with tons of left wing political slogan stickers plastered on it. I get liking the guy, but doing all that is still weird cultist-like shit.
Littering. Literally and figuratively.
I don't know what figuratively littering is, but I'm with you on most of this.
Getting too emotional, positively or negatively, about any sports team you don't have a real personal connection to (as in, your dad founded it, your brother plays in it, something like that, not just "well I was born in Shitstreak so I'm a proud Shitstreaker!") or that you haven't bet any money on. Additionally, betting money on sports or any sort of gambling, which can go from trashy and desperate to degenerate and pathological.
It’s gross, but if you’ve got a napkin nearby, you’ve got the opportunity to provide some instant karma in the form of social shaming.
trump
Yep
And his idiot supporters
Lemmy.ml
Oh honey, I’m not thinking about you at all.
so you don't think im trashy then!
Under the trash blanket you’re wearing, I have no idea who you are inside.
i'm just a girl who likes to dress a little trashy i guess 💅
Donald Trump's interior decoration choices
And exterior, too.
Including his wives
I think of trashy as the opposite end of the spectrum from classy.
Respecting others privacy and being gracious when someone is embarrassed? Classy. Arguing in front of others or loudly reprimanding someone in public? Trashy.
Dressed appropriately for the venue and audience? Classy. Booty shorts and flip flops in an office space? Trashy.
Being on time and considerate in your manner of arrival? Classy Being late and disruptive? Trashy.
You don't have to be rich to be classy, just considerate. In the same way, people of means can be trashy if they're inconsiderate of others.
I think to me, the ultimate trashy move is to pee in public.
Behaving inconsiderately towards strangers.
Her name was Charity and she started wearing crop tops in our 7th grade
Trashy is pretty close to the union of inconsiderate and incurious.
Hypocritical Finnish drunks with infidelity problems who pretend they're the shining beacon of morality and ruin people's lives over cannabis despite drinking themselves unconscious several times a week.
Oddly specific.
Honestly, very generalised from my point of view.
I could list a dozen people with at least a majority of those characterisrics. Most with all of them.
You know the one Finnish woman I knew, an ex's mother fits that to a T and her daughter, my ex definitely did the indefinitely parts too.
Yep. Finns are emotionally stunted addicts for the most part.
I don’t think it’s about specific behaviors but the way they’re carried out.
I think trashy is socially tone deaf, inconsiderate, selfish, and thoughtless actions.
This. I have run fundraising offices in multiple cities. There's often one or two "trashy" people in each office, who could learn people's names but don't, who insist that everything they do is perfect and others need to change to see it, who love being loud and living large themselves but won't respect other's choices or beliefs even in shared professional spaces. They litter. They steal from people they know. They often hide behind a veneer of religious faith, to deflect criticism. They refuse to learn, or reflect upon their actions with anything but praise.
Currently wishing cancer on the guy who walks right past the stationery cupboard to steal sharpies from my desk.
I flip the bird for a picture if I don't want my picture taken.
Pissed off an acquaintance in high school because she wanted to take my picture, I didn't want my picture taken, she did it anyway, and I got my middle finger up just as she pressed the button.
She was pissed because:
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This was in the days before digital photography so there was no option to delete the picture.
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She was taking pictures for a photography class, the grade included developing the roll, and she would have gotten in trouble if that was included, so she had to start over (or so she said).
The middle finger thing is very selective to me, I very rarely use it. When I do use it though, it means someone has seriously offended me, and might have even threatened me, for no good reason. And yes, words come with that finger, but again, I rarely do anything like that, unless I've encountered an asshole.
Now, what I personally define as 'trashy' is people that leave literal trash around their homes or vehicles. People that can't be bothered to properly throw their stale food away, throw their paper plates under their bed, and then fucking wonder why they have rats and flies around..
Sometimes "fuck off" just means "fuck off".
Being flagrantly disrespectful of basic public etiquette.
A good example from working in a public building is that people will walk on a full elevator before letting people walk off.
That drives me crazy, especially because it makes things more difficult/take longer for everybody involved. It's not just about being polite it's literally more efficient.
A lack of values. Quick to anger. No introspection. Controlled by greed and culture. Swearing in the wrong settings.
Arrogance and inconsideration
Swearing or aggresive behaviour in public when there are little kids around.
AI generated "content". Especially when it's blatantly obvious and/or when they're lying about it.
Its like art. I can't really say but I know it when I see it.
Celebrity worship
Littering
Vulgar consumerism
Bigotry
Brand worship
I haven’t met my aunt’s cousin many times, but I did hear about her wedding. For his vows, Mike 3 (the third Mike she dated and I think second she had married) crushed an entire Mike’s Hard Lemonade then declared “I love you so much, Babe!” After the ceremony they took the rifles that had been leaning a few feet away and shot some targets nearby. I think that was a few weeks after she had been excited that 7 years had passed since her last bankruptcy, which meant she could start racking up debt again and go on a cruise.
I guess kudos to them for living their best lives, but if all that’s not a little trashy, I don’t know what is.
She sounds fun
Talking at the movies. It's happening increasingly frequently here, and it's making me go less nowadays. I don't mean a few words, I mean constant chatter throughout the showing. Like, just shut the hell up and get immersed!
Low effort, badly kept, poor quality. Some combination of those three.
At leisure wear while clearly not doing a sports activity (ever).
Take a picture of yourself holding a gun, for example.
Dude, take a holiday from your head. This is not healthy.
Edit: I have been informed that I misread the flipping off as the finger used to take the picture on the phone. Oh boy, do I feel silly now. I leave my comments up for everybody else to have a sensible chuckle on my expense.
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He's just quickly sharing something he dislikes that crossed his mind, not going on a five-page rant about the German stare or crocs. Is that your reaction to anything that isn't "nice"? To each their own, I guess, but I enjoy my two minutes of (very soft) hate here and there...
the German stare
The what now?
searches
https://berlinpoche.de/en/german-stare
What Is “The German Stare”?
The German stare refers to the tendency of people in Germany to look at others openly, directly, and for longer periods of time than what’s considered normal in many other cultures.
In countries like the US, UK, or Canada:
- Prolonged eye contact = confrontation, flirting, or danger
- Looking at strangers too long = rude
In Germany:
- Prolonged eye contact = neutral observation
Huh.
Oh man. The article mentions Germans might stare if you stand on the wrong side of the escalator. I did that my first day in Munich.
A little old lady nudged me and yelled "Lassen Sie mich vorbei!"
I turned and mumbled "Es tut mir leid!", and literally everyone on the escalator was staring at me.
That was like 13 years ago and I still think about it all the time.
Obsessing what finger other people use on their phone is not healthy regardless length of post. How do you even notice? Why is it inside OPs mind?
And for being an overwhelmingly leftist community, it is quite hypocritical to be judging people for trivial superficialities that affects absolutely nothing or nobody.
A finger. On a phone.
I can judge how the wind feels on my face, doesn't mean I'm obsessed with it. And one can think someone is morally upright/prosocial/nice and still think they're doing something trashy, it's not so all or nothing like that. But okay.
You... project societal values on weather?
Well, you got me there. I'm going to take my dog for a walk in the chivalry sun with a light arrogant breeze and enjoy the day without injecting myself in other peoples casual business.
What are you on about now?
My point is that you are judging people by something as superficial and pointless as what finger they are using on their phones as if people do mundane things to get inside you head. How do you even notice a thing like that? How do you come to the conclusion that it is trashy?
How do you tie your shoelaces? Which foot do you start walking with? Do you stir your coffee and in what direction? Are those trashy behaviours?
I'm pretty sure they're talking about when people are flipping off the camera in photos not physically pressing the capture button on their phones with the middle finger.
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Oooooohhhhh!
Lightbulb moment. . Thank you.
how about, for starters, people who use that word.
i dont like it. it lacks imagination.
it lacks imagination.
As does all language as its entire purpose is conveying meaning to others in a way that they'll understand.
If we were to all start using our imaginations to come up with new words, it would just be gibberish that nobody else understood.
pulease. how very cromulent of you.
i said nothing of making up words. theres already so many
it's also just kind of punching down. like they don't hold themselves to social standards because they don't receive any of the benefits of social membership.