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What is your internal voice like?

14d 16h ago by piefed.blahaj.zone/u/LadyButterfly in mentalhealth from piefed.cdn.blahaj.zone

Yeah, but when I do that, people get freaked out

I wouldn't say it's specifically one and the same voice or with even with clear sound. It's more like flashes of different clips or memes or just concepts.

Overall theme of it isn't that nice. Parts of it are beating me up aka "Beatings shall continue until morale improves" or chanting/reminding to myself that "Only in death does duty end" probably some forms of shame/failure/weakness/being lesser in there as well with a dash of body image issues "You're never as big as you want to be"

Though at least I've managed to develop some sort of a sound of reason that overlays it all. That tries to take everything into consideration to determine whatever the voice/concept is right or not.

Kinda like a warden or judge Dredd, that forces all the other concepts back into their cages if they escape or start to make too much noise.

And before you ask. No, the nicer concepts didn't surive the gauntlet and no i do not have depression. That has been beaten back and locked into stronger cages.

I'm hoping emdr fixes mine

Haven't heard of that one. Can you elaborate?

I have kinda given up or at least delayed fixing it into far far away future, because surprisingly it works and rather well. Hopefully in far away future mental health treatment is easier, more effective and cheaper. Current methods do seem to be rather inefficient and convoluted.

From an IFS (Internal Family Systems) perspective, this isn't great advice.

IFS views the mind as a system of parts, somewhat like a family. Parts such as managers and firefighters aren't enemies to silence; they're protective adaptations that developed to help us cope with overwhelming experiences, often in childhood. Beneath them are exiled parts that carry pain, shame, fear, or other burdens.

In IFS, every part is assumed to have a positive intention, even when its behavior is unhelpful or self-destructive. The goal is not to tell these parts to "shut up," but to understand what they're trying to protect, build a relationship with them, and help them trust the Self—the calm, compassionate, adult center of the person.

Trying to suppress or silence inner voices may provide temporary relief, but it doesn't address the underlying wounds. Healing comes from curiosity, acceptance, and unburdening the parts that are carrying pain, not from fighting them.

Nah-ah! You look straight that inner child straight in the eyes, you pull up a chair and you sit with it - tell it it's alright to cry, it's okay to be sad and angry. Just know why you're really sad and angry. Feel through it, let it out, let your mind breathe, let out your soul.

And then you give that inner child a hug, tell it that it's worthy, loved and valuable, that you can't avoid healing, that true strength comes from facing the pain and that happiness comes after inner peace.

You do that, you'll be alright.