I'd say people should not be allowed to complain on behalf of a community, period.

We should normalize complaining about your own feelings being hurt, borders crossed or whatever.

One reason we have this problem is because we tell people to suck it up all the time. People dont need to suck it up, you need to grow some empathy, john.

I‘m way ahead of you. Using three forgejo instances and patiently waiting for federation. I love forgejo.

Life is just a bleak pile of shit sometimes. But there are wonderful parts too. Reach out to one person you know and talk to them. The rules of statistics say that way more people appreciate you than you think. If you dont immediately know who to call, check https://findahelpline.com

I hope you get better soon.

I use ionos since 10 years and I‘m very happy, but only for webhosting stuff. The VPS Services I get from Hetzner and I havent really tested them.

I did have a meeting with IONOS this week though about it and I‘m positive about the UI for new vps owners since its quite easy to grasp but I dont think they’re a better option than hetzner.

I‘m currently trying to bring up a rather complicated setup using garage. Garage on Homeserver behind firewall, vpn relay, peertube and other s3 compatible services on a vps. Garage works rather weill, the vpn is giving me a hard time though. Can recommend.

I agree. But I would go further and say if other industries didnt have more complex schemes and locked down IP (eg car manufacturing), people would def build their own shit with current tools. Its always the greed of those not willing to invest in innovation that keeps progress away. Media piracy and FOSS culture are the only real challengers to greed imo.

Peertube is essentially mastodon or lemmy with videos. Its trivial to set up compared to the other two. I run a private instance so I cant talk about the rate of issues but from an experienced admin perspective, its no more of a problem to set up and run than the others.

But I too think that long term it would be great to have more user friendly setups as to enable less experienced folks to host it.

Having as much on one machine as possible has efficiency and maintenance benefits since you have less machines to configure. The drawback is that multiple services can add up peak demands and run the machine oom which you can either solve by leaving extra headroom or make them redundant imo.

Someone with more experience than me might have other ideas to add.

As someone with diagnosed mental health issues, I can tell you that I mean no harm. But sadly, the pure difference in perception paired with unfamiliarity of the two parties makes the situation insanely dangerous, not the person.

You never know why the person is in this predicament and if they have a tendency towards violence, robbery or other things. I‘m not saying they are. I‘m saying you have to assume they are before making that decision. Can you defend yourself against a pulled knife or even gun, do you have enough mental capacity to observe them at all times. Those odds do not look good.

So, although I would never willingly look down on folks less fortunate than myself. I too will never ever let a stranger into my house if they raise any concerns.

Dont buy stuff from amazon. Its like „have you seen that guy lucifer? He sells the greatest stuff for cheap!“ what could go wrong…