Swear words.

Hahaha. But on a serious note, I 'logic it out' as a coping method.

Example: If I'm feeling insecure about myself but need to go grocery shopping, I will do my best to think of logical likely situations than to the ones that are preventing me. 'I'm worried about the traffic on the way there and/or back.' That's ok. Plan to go on a day that is less likely to be busy and do it at an off hour. 'I don't want to see or hear how much it's going to cost for groceries.' That's completely understandable. You're not alone in that discomfort and stressor. How about we just buy the things we really need this time instead. Would that work?

Often times, 'logicing it out' helps me. But not always. I try to be more patient with myself as well, as these are things that I want and need to do, but yelling at yourself for not doing something or another the day you said you were going to or wanted to, doesn't help (as it turns out.) Somewhere online years ago, I read something that really helped me. It said, "If yelling at yourself to do something worked, it would have worked a long time ago."

This is the highest offense of petism I've ever seen on Lemmy! Sheesh! /j

Thank you for filling me in.

Could I get some context please?

Scbooty-dooty-dooooo!

Remember, that people grief in different ways. And it's not always about the time after the event that helps, but knowing that someone else acknowledges their struggle(s) after that the event. At least, that was true for me after I lost one of my good friends years ago to suicide.

And now... I'm getting teary eyed just thinking about him and that time period of my life. Like @Artaca@lemdro.id said above... "It gets easier, but never easy." It's 100% true. All these years later and I still have days where he comes to mind. And while a lot of the heartache has surpassed, I still have moments of sadness and rare blip moment where I grief over it for a short time.

Anyway... I'm starting to make this too much about me I think.

I'd encourage you to find a way to show that you're there for her if and when she needs a moment or a person. It goes a long way.