

So we are literally back to the beginning. I have no where I can go to be myself. No where that is accepting of who I am.
I understand what you are saying, but I have a hard time with the hypocrisy of someone preaching acceptance while actively judging me because of what I am rather than trying to understand me despite doing everything I can to communicate, connect and understand.
That's the problem I'm trying, likely failing, to communicate/point out though. All other things being equal those groups and types of people tend to be less receptive to my opinions and perspectives on things just because of what I am even when they have known me for a while. I have experienced on more than one occasion someone getting upset with me for pointing something out where when someone else who wasn't a white dude said almost the exact same thing verbatim they accepted it without an issue.
People are people and dumb tribalism and prejudice is present in almost every space and I am also hardwired to detect it and call it out when I see it. Keeping quiet about it and just watching it happen makes me very agitated and takes a lot of mental energy to keep in check. So take that in combination with the above and well....
I'm tired boss. Not tired of fighting for others' right to exist, I'll do that every day. I'm just tired of fighting for my own.
It would just be nice if it ever felt like I wasn't standing naked out in the middle of no mans land. I generally don't have any community that provides protection even when I need it and this particular conversation thread is a good example of why. I can't go into the spaces or communities where I most identify with others experiences without being treated for what I appear to be, and even if I wanted to capitalize on being being a white dude (I really don't), it doesn't take very long before I piss off the wrong person or make problems by pointing out how something isn't OK.
If/when things really do go sideways I fully expect that I will be one of the first individuals to be put on the proverbial trains because I'm target. No one is going to show up in support of me.
That's all I'm saying.
Well, as a white guy with autism that is just mild enough that it isn't apparent when people first interact with me my entire existence is basically trying to figure out where all the invisible traps are. To an outside observer it would very much appear like I'm keeping my head down and being complicit, and yet I often find myself identifying most with people in marginalized groups because of their experiences, how they feel, and how they are treated. I have no qualms standing up for someone when I can, but it's rare that anyone ever stands up for me because I'm just another white guy despite the fact that I'm usually confused and barely keeping my head above water on the inside.
Blender change the Anthropic AI funding deal, with discussions planned for AI Policies
1mon 12d ago in linux@lemmy.ml from www.gamingonlinux.comDid you read the article? Blender isn't doing AI stuff.
Why aren't Linux-based mobile operating systems (apart from Android) used more widely?
1mon 14d ago in asklemmyThat's my biggest issue with Fairphone and I'm typing this comment on one.
The way it feels to me is that Framework actually cares about the principles it espouses at its core which is reflected in their design decisions, whereas Fairphone merely decided to target an underserved niche within the context of capitalism.
Don't get me wrong, Framework has their own issues, and I'm well aware of the problems that phone manufacturers face when it comes to hardware not being as interchangeable, but FP really hasn't done anything on the hardware side to make uplifting a current phone viable.
Something like keeping the same battery form factor so a higher energy density chemistry for the newer generation could be used on an older generation for example.
Anyone feeling like doesn't belong anywhere?
1mon 23d ago in nostupidquestionsI still live in my home country and I also feel a similar way. I'm too weird to be normal, but I'm too normal to be weird. I can fit in anywhere and adapt to just about anything, but no where does it feel like I belong. It's an existence that feels and is very liminal.
It's not anyone's fault. I'm wired in a very peculiar way. There isn't really anything I or anyone else can really do. All I can do is keep trying to meet people, do things I like, and trying new things I like and maybe some day something will click. Being about 1/3 of the way through my life though that's not super likely. Could be worse. Could be better.
All phones sold in the EU to have replaceable batteries from 2027
1mon 28d ago in hackernews@lemmy.bestiver.se from www.theolivepress.esRiiiiiiight
Well, that's kinda what I'm getting at. The kind of tool used by a mechanic to install a cable management clip (that the shop manual states has a torque value) is a simple screw driver. I think I have seen seen some computer heatsinks that have listed a recommended torque value as well. Of course I have never grabbed my torque wrench for this either, I have always just gone with feel.
To be clear, I'm not advocating that the manufacturer require users to buy a torque gauge of some kind and get away with it. It can be very helpful though to have a recommended torque value and sequence as a reference point though if they go the route of screws and gaskets. There are tons of other engineering solutions that are possible up to and including just not having an IP rating.
I'm currently using a Fairphone 5 with the back cover removed and in a case and I haven't ever had any issues.
Do we know know if requiring specific torque values would violate the regulation? That's a genuine good faith question. The reason I ask, and what I was thinking of when I made my original comment was cars, and not the new bull shit we have. If I reference the shop manual for any of the vehicles I owned made in the late 80s to early 90s every fastener had a specific torque value specified for their installation from a lug but, to a cable management clip, to a head gasket bolt. Only one of those items I listed ever had a torque wrench brought out to be installed if they were worked on though by a mechanic or an owner.
I'm just wondering if it might be a similar situation.
Recommendations for where to commission short graphic design work?
8mon 13d ago in asklemmyWhy are parts of application in a different language?
11mon 19d ago in fdroid@lemmy.mlIs there a European Union equivalent of BLS.gov?
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1y 5mon ago in handhelds@lemmy.ml[Feature Request] Set custom colors for posts/links that have been opened (Update: It already exists 🤦♀️)
1y 6mon ago in boostforlemmyWhat is the "proper" way to view all of the startup programs and services?
1y 7mon ago in linuxWhat would be the best Fediverse sub/community/place for questions about probability and statistics?
1y 7mon ago in nostupidquestionsTiffany & Co Is Lying To You (RamsesThePigeon)
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