This was a number of months ago so I doubt it would be remembered anywhere at this point. After that, a number of posts I commented in were also removed as well. It was very confusing because everything seemed appropriate for the community. I do look forward to seeing how this community grows/changes now.

I've taken a very minimalist approach to self-hosting but I've given extra attention towards security. I feel like security doesn't get talked about as much as it could be. It's especially important these days with bots roaming around everywhere.

I also use some unconventional methods that I'd like to share (layering security with obscurity with a focus on security first). It's not a one size fits all solution but I can stay private while exposing my server with minimal tools. It works for me though and my logs haven't shown any outside activity besides my own.

I stopped posting and commenting on this community because things kept getting deleted even though it was all very clearly about self-hosting. It was very disappointing because I spent a lot of time on my contributions. One post I made a while ago was about self-hosting security and had tons of activity only for all that information to be removed over rule 3. Very confusing and disappointing.

I'm interested in seeing how the vibe around here changes going forward. Maybe I'll be less cautious about participating.

It's mind blowing to me that anyone wants to live forever in this life or the next.

From my experiences, many people that are afraid of death are also extremely unhappy being alive in the first place. They are constantly struggling with the fear of their life coming to an end that they miss being able to be in the moment. That's stressful as fuck.

Everyone poops. Everyone dies. That's just a part of life. Not a whole lot in this universe has the opportunity to see beautiful things and experience emotions.

Sadly, people who are afraid of death like to make it other peoples problem. Generally, I prefer the company of a pile of shit over those people. A pile of shit won't think twice about nurturing new life no matter what it is and that's the kind of vibes I can support.

Anyways, my retirement plan is still extreme sports. If I'm going to leave life behind, I'm going out in style.

I just use SSH+Rsync for everything. I traded two-way sync for minimalism and reliability. I've had nothing but headaches with anything else, especially Syncthing.

My Computer and both Raspberry Pi servers both run Linux and I have Termux installed on my Android phone so OpenSSL and Rsync are easily available.

I made a script that runs Rsync commands from files containing all the information which easily swaps source/target files so I can easily transfer in both directions with a simple command line option. It's reliable and simple and I've had a lot less headaches troubleshooting the rarely occurring issues.

Confused.

I started drifting away from conservative values when I was very young. It was slow and constant and I never stopped drifting away. My current state of believes never made much sense to myself so there was no good reason to stop.

I found anarchism in my mid 20's and that was the first time I found something that almost made sense. It would take another 10ish years of lived experiences and listening to other people's stories to really understand my relationship with anarchism.

I never really read any anarchist books or dug deep into the philosophy. Listening to people and their traumas was way more than enough to help me understand the significance of anarchism.

I got into programming within the last couple years and Codeberg was my first choice for a public git repository. I'm glad I made that decision back then.

I keep a clone of my Codeberg repo's on my server simply using Caddy's built in file server. Unless someone takes interest in the projects I'm working on, I don't really feel like hosting an instance of Forgejo myself. At the very least the code and git history is still available directly from my server and that makes me happy enough.

It's disappointing to see what's become of PieFed. I was hanging around in the Matrix channel for a while and it seemed like an alright place. I even helped improve the documentation at one point and made a theme too. This was all done under a different username so I'm well distanced from all this now.

Some drama happened a while ago with the Lemmy devs and people started taking an interest in PieFed. There were all these new moderators and instance owners in the matrix channel and things definitely started to feel different.

One of the bigger instance owners gave off some vibes I wasn't comfortable being around and everyone else was just quietly okay with it. I guess. I don't really know how to describe the feeling but I know that it was my cue to quietly leave.

I saw the signs in PieFed itself and the community developing around it so I'm not surprised. Just disappointed.

I used to work with a buncha guys who would constantly ask me about if I was dating, when I was having kids and why I didn't own a car so I could fuck women and have kids. But they also thought I was gay because I didn't have a partner, didn't want kids and didn't have a car to fuck women and have kids. It's truly unhinged how much they cared about my dick.

So all my friends are queer now and they focus on me as a person and not just my dick. It's nice.

I went to a techno party one night and while I was outside for some fresh air a guy came over, sat down and talked with me while he waited for his ride.

Just before he left he said I was a good listener and that I shouldn't let people take advantage of my kindness. This person had no idea the absolute shitshow my life was at that moment in time but managed to say all the things I didn't know I needed to hear.

Things are much better now but I still think about that moment every so often.