The cape is actually a long vest. Very popular in the early 70s.

I think it’s SNW: S02E05 Charades.

Spock and Chapel are nearly killed when they encounter a portal created by a higher-dimensional race, the Kerkhovians, who heal Chapel but accidentally reconfigure Spock's half-human, half-Vulcan physiology to that of a full-blooded human. This happens as Spock is preparing for an engagement ritual with his fiancée T'Pring and her bigoted parents T'Pril and Sevek. Spock's human mother Amanda Grayson boards the Enterprise to help Spock prepare. Spock does not tell T'Pring of his condition, hoping not to worry her, and relies on the crew to help disguise himself as Vulcan and stall the ritual until a cure is found. Chapel convinces the Kerkhovians to return Spock to normal by confessing to them her feelings for him. Spock is able to complete the ritual, which ends with him making a telepathic connection to his mother that shows him how difficult it is for a human to love a Vulcan. Spock then reveals the ruse to call out T'Pril's bigotry. Offended that Spock hid his condition from her, T'Pring asks to take a break from their relationship. Spock later admits to Chapel that he also has feelings for her and they kiss. — https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Star_Trek:_Strange_New_Worlds_season_2#Episodes

Yes we do!

Apparently :)

He beat Kirk twice!

Season 5 episode 1, “Forgotten Lady” with Janet Leigh. One of my favorites.

For me it’s communication, honesty, openness, willingness to listen, and acceptance of where the person is coming from in their reactions and emotions. This is a result of childhood trauma and any long-term traumatic experience. CPTSD (complex PTSD), if you’d like to read about it. This kind of thing is learned below a conscious level so you can’t just logic yourself out of the reaction, it’s almost hard coded. Working together helps both of you figure out how to handle it, unfortunately there is no trick. It takes time and work and patience and love.

I’ve had this one for years