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Dunno. Perchance

There are garments that holds everything properly if it's of proper shape and size for you, and there's underwear and bikinis designed specifically for trans people / femboys / drag queens etc.

Some might need tucking, some will hold stuff even without. Latex underwear that is a size smaller can help hold things in place, and you can wear it underneath other underwear or garments.

I personally use boyshorts but I have panties as well, and I have a swimming dress that I really like. They're all really designed for cis people but they fit me just fine. My cheaper medium sized boyshorts however do usually lose their shape after I wear it for a bit and it stops holding things well. My shapewear that compresses my waist and is like a pantie in the crotch fits really well.

Fascism is when you delete comments

There's a sort of societal pressure to present as your gender when you're trans simply because it's safer and the alternative is often being misgendered and marginalized. it's also really scary to change presentation early on so early in the transition is when you'll see many sort of "overcorrect" and go overly femme or masc, but many are perfectly happy to be gender non-conforming, and many try less hard as they get more comfortable with themselves.

There's also the growing trend of femboys or guys that present more feminine, and I see guys painting their nails more than before these days.

I think a celebrity making a gesture or doing something symbolically is really cool, but at the end of the day the real signs of a cultural shift is what regular people are doing casually, and to me it feels like there's something shifting, even if it's slow going and there's pushback.

PS the trans dress thing sounds sort of accidentally transphobic, but looking at your profile I don't think that was intentional and is just an issue of phrasing.

Let me make this clear. A lot of you are missing the point.

If you support trans rights and you support someones identity, but you maybe don't support a trans billionaire as mentioned by one commenter, then that's but "I support trans people, but". That's just supporting trans people.

If your support for someones identity or rights is conditional then that would be the problem. Phrases like the one in the comic is often made when saying something controversial and invalidating, like only supporting some trans people or thinking it's okay to misgender certain trans people.

Traffic cone tits is pretty common 😭 but you're early in your hormonal transition so I can tell you they will fill out more, especially if you put on a bit of weight, so remember to eat properly!

That's true! I meant more as an example of a community that because of its nature has to ban more than other communities!

Also it occurs to me that I have no idea if rimu is looking at instance bans, community bans, or all bans. Instance bans will typically also include community bans which can inflate the numbers if all bans are counted in the data

Edit: in fact it's all weird. if you instance ban someone early before they can participate much they technically get very few community bans, whereas if you ban someone who has participated a lot they'll get lots of community bans as well (when you are instance banned you get banned from all communities you've participated in on that instance). an instance that is more trigger happy will have fewer community bans than an instance that is slow to instance ban

Edit 2: And then there's temporary bans! I dunno if those have been counted

Yeah from memory most of our instance bans are gatekeeping and transphobia (and spam) which are the things we are the strictest on. We also notice that many transphobes are also bigoted or inflammatory in other ways as well, which makes sense as you wouldn't notice someone with bigoted views unless they were very willing to voice those views.

I don't think this is terribly meaningful. Do you take into account unmoderated communities? Some communities and mods are also more ban happy than others, so one instance can have communities that very rarely ban and ones that ban a lot, and how big those communities are will also vary.

A more meaningful analysis would try to measure the impact of ban-happy communities by adjusting for their size/activity or would compare individual communities.

Edit: Some communities or mods also get harassed a lot and therefore need to be more ban happy (like womens stuff), but I don't think accounting for that would be within the scope of what you're looking at, but it's worth being aware of.