Only after quitting I realized that I self-medicated my undiagnosed adhd by drinking regularly

This is true with any kind of addiction. Alcohol, social media, doom scrolling, all hide some sort of neurodivergence as it provides a form of escapism.

Hope your sober streak continues.

The brain gets tuned to the increasing amount of alcohol. Congratulations for the 3 years!

What made you stop? Was it the hangovers?

Can you explain your coffee part? You get a buzz from coffee?

I agree.

I can't even imaging how much money i have saved by not spending it on drinks, smokes and drugs.

but I feel like unless you're living a totally subsistence lifestyle in the middle of nowhere then everything you do is a potential poison to some extent and our bodies will deal with it or not

I can respectfully disagree with that. I think there are some hobbies which can both bring joy to one's life and not cause any harm (unless you take it to a crazy extreme). Example; collecting stamps. Doesn't cause anyone any harm. Can be be harmful? If you spend thousands of dollars to get one rare stamp and ignoring your family duties, yes it can be harmful. However, such examples are extremely rare.

Drinking can be done moderately, I agree. But saying it's the same as any other activity is a no from me.

But thanks for sharing. I may try some non-alcoholic beer.

Fascinating! Religion is something of a hit-and-miss with people. For some it doesn't work, and for others it works wonders.

Can you elaborate on what you were thinking when you met your wife? How did that make you do a complete 180 on drinking?