Hello everyone,

I want to clarify that I am not Goth, nor am I aspiring to be one. There is a girl I came across on a dating app, and she is truly one of a kind. We have been texting and recently followed each other on Instagram. She is not only cool and mysterious, but captivating on a much deeper level.

I am not interested in the games people play. I like philosophy. I lift weights. I am a dostoveskys fanboy .I am also a chronic overthinker-I have always felt like an outsider, but I have after years come to terms with that.

Here is the thing: I am not looking to jump into the Goth scene and pretend to be someone I'm not. I just want to establish a genuine connection with this girl. My biggest concern is that I might come off as trying way too hard to not ruin things, which in the end make me look like I am fetishizing her vibe or being performative.

If you have experienced this kind of attention before, or if you just happen to have some wisdom to offer, I would very much appreciate it. How do I go about showing her that I appreciate her not just for the aesthetic but for who she is, without forcing something that isn't me?

Thanks in advance.