What was the most recent thing that made you cry as an adult?
1mon 21d ago by lemmy.ca/u/Washedupcynic in asklemmy
This past weekend, I made it through one of the big bosses in act 3 of Baulder's Gate. I wept like a child over Karlach's monologue about how she still feels empty after killing the guy who sold her to devils, and it didn't change the fact that she was going to die. What's the point of it all?
Well, my mom died two weeks ago and my girlfriend of eight years left me this week, I suspect once the shock wears off the flood gates will open.
been there. when my dad died my girlfriend of 6 years left me for being 'too depressed and no fun to be around'. i was going to ask her to marry me before he got really sick.
she was an awful human being.
Should be happy you dodged a bullet there man. Imagine how miserable your life would be spending it with a fair-weather only life partner ✌️
HUG
My input is meaningless, but thought it might be worth sharing from experience that everyone processes grief differently, and in their own time.
A support network helps, whether that be friends, family, or even a professional. Doesn't need to be right away, but having someone to talk to or confide in when the time is right can help with managing grief in a healthy way before the proverbial levee breaks.
Trump survived another possible assassination attempt
One of my kids said thank you for some work I did to help them.
It's hard being a parent. Even a little gratitude can go a long way.
Breakup after a 9 year relationship.
HUG
Found my depressed little brother going to his garden finding a bit of joy. It was so nice to see him better.
Worrying that my ADHD 8 yr old won’t have any friends that aren’t relatives because he is so weird with other kids and they lose patience with him.
It's a lonely life.
❤️ autistic, ADHD adult. I cried watching the movie "I swear" last night about a boy through to man with Tourettes syndrome. It's too relatable just how hard life can be why you're different. I liked the message of the movie though which was that the disability isn't the problem, it's the lack of education for society that puts up the barriers. A lot of truth in that.
I hope your son finds people who he connects with without having to change who he is.
Autistic and adhd here.
I do t have friends at 55 but found a wife who is the best person on the planet. It’s enough to just get one good one.
There are two things.
My first girlfriend tricked me into getting her pregnant. My sister adopted our progeny. He turned eighteen a few months ago. He'd be well within his rights to hate me, but recently he's been reaching out to me. I've been reaching out to him, too, and he's responded. Every time we talk I want to cry from relief. I'm so happy he doesn't hate me.
The other is the only dog I've ever had whom I chose to put down. She was the best dog I'd ever met but her pancreas had failed. She wasn't eating and she was peeing blood, but what right did I have to decide her life was over? I hope I spared her some suffering.
Recently my nephew talked to me about my ex-dog. My goodness were there some emotions that night.
edit: Grammar.
I've rewatched Andor a few times now. Quite a few scenes still hit me hard, even after knowing they're coming.
I could say the same for LotR also.
Telling my therapist that my birthday is coming up and I just wish there was one person besides my dad who would wish me a happy birthday or want to go hiking or something with me on my birthday but I don't have any friends or anyone in my life who would even know I have a birthday.
It shouldn't be too hard to find people to go on a hike. Maybe look around for local hiking communities?
Friends aren't magic, they don't appear out of thin air, you have to find them and make them yourself. Go out, find a group, and let things happen
I've been working on making connections and trying to spend time with people. I definitely don't sit around at home and hide away. Friendships also don't just happen out of thin air, and I don't have any yet.
Yet!
Happy early birthday! You'll find your people one day, don't give up :)
What are you doing to make new friends? If the answer is nothing, stop doing that and try something else.
Six hours ago, I did my first round of IPL hair removal. It hurt so badly, I wept. The attendant who did the procedure was so amazingly kind and supportive emotionally that it made me cry even more. Sorry it wasn't a cry with deeper meaning. 🤣 For me it was deep, because it was my first step towards doing something - anything - for my body, of my own volition. 🩵
Watching The Pitt, season 1 hit me in the gut
my cat died due to pericardial effusion. he was only 9.
the animal ER offered to save him, but it would have cost me $50,000.
Just getting him diagnosed and being in the ER half a day cost me $5,000.
before that probably 6 years ago when we had to put my mom in eldercare due to accelerated dementia. when she died it was a huge relief, because she was a huge burden and absolutely refused to participate in any self-care or treatment to make her life better, but that was who she was and so was my dad. both refused to ever take responsibility for their own physical and mental well-being.
Like just a tear or two or full on weep? Because I would prefer not to dig in my memory for weeping, but just a tear or two? Cat claw in boob.
Video on Gaza children
Thinking about my dogs today, as I was driving home. They died in 2023 and 2024, each after being very ill. I don't process emotions all that well and them being gone still affects me.
I went to apply for a US Passport...
Then I remembered that a lot of immigrants from Fujian are undocumented...
And like... I have been in highschool with these kids whose parents are from Fujian...
And I kinda just felt sad...
Cuz I'm also from China, but I got lucky and got citizenship... and they didn't...
So I just cried... :/
Cuz I can imagine what it's like with the uncertaintly
I mean... I kinda feel the same in some ways... I mean with current political atmosphere... who even knows anymore... I could get denaturalized and end up the same as them anyways...
I'm sorry that my country is such a piece of shit to good people.
I wish there were more people like you in it.
my country
OUR Country*
Bernie Intensifies
The scene in Blade Runner 2049: The moment he realizes the advertisement called him Joe and it was all a lie, and decides to do the right thing any way. Can't seem to find an unedited clip.
https://youtu.be/gX3bpVC7C14
I'm still a believer that his Joi was different. Or maybe any of them could be, with the right environment. Much like Sam in Her wasn't probably designed to go as far as she did, but they all (or many) ended up becoming something more. What was designed to be an AI girlfriend became aware in some aspects. Not saying what we have in reality is similar, just that emergence is still something to discuss even in a world of fakery to sell a product that isn't really aware.
And it can be argued that even the tells of her being more could be saying what the user wants to hear, but... it may not be either. And that's good writing, letting the reader have to fill in some of the ambiguous things on their own afterwards.
I want to believe. Maybe partially because it's that much more tragic. His Joi wasn't destroyed, she was murdered.
Careful with that logic. Many people feel that way about real ai right now and it has destroyed lives. Not that big of a leap today to compare the two.
It is a slippery slope. But the difference is that in a story you're only given what the writer gives you, and you have to work the rest out. In reality you can show there limitations in what we have now.
It is a problem with our AI because like with anything else, people are easily convinced and marketed to for what they want to see, and they usually don't want to dig too deep to find the truth in what they want to be true. Caveat emptor is Latin because selling something based on appearances has been around a long time. Today's AI is our snake oil. It can be useful, but only if you understand what its limitations are, and how to best utilize its power while not getting sucked into its falsehoods.
sucked into its falsehoods
And its setting for "always be supportive". There I completely agree. Sycophancy in today's AIs is horrifying.
Playing Clair Obscur: Expedition 33. Drawn in by the grandness of the story but it all came down to the one thing that hits close to home for most everyone
I enjoyed the game, but I found myself wishing I’d felt any of the same emotional beats others did. The first few dramatic moments were impressive, but later parts of the story basically did nothing for me.
Think how much it resonates is going to depend on how it relates to your personal experiences with grief and how people deal with it. I think what hit home for me personally is how I could fully sympathize with all of the character's motivations.
Yeah it wrecked me as someone whose family fell apart in the process of grief. It was so good
I got kicked in both balls and a hemorrhoid at the same time.
that should get you an achievement or something honestly
All I got was new pants.
Thinking about my Dad always gets me. Passed away 2 years ago today in his sleep. Died too young.
Allergies
Music is usually why, I have a soft spot for Psychedelic Rock. That was most recent.
Before that, seeing Project Hail Mary in theater had me tearing up when
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he turned around to help rock friend with their leaky containers.
What got me was the ending scene, that was the result of that decision. Full circle.
Last week I learned one of my cats (my first feline buddy) has cancer. He's 14, so we are going to keep him as comfortable as we can until he's in too much pain.
I cry most days. Not usually from sadness. Yesterday there was some tender mpment in my kids' TV show that made me well up.
A story I shared with my kids. Got it off reddit years ago and no longer remember the name of the redditor who posted it (apologies if you're out there!).
--- STORY TIME (I will cry again as I format it for Lemmy (I will cry every fucking time I read it)) ---
The last thing I remember is My Person bringing my to the Sharp Place.
I never understood why My Person would bring me to the Sharp Place. The smells were sharp, and they poked me with sharp things. That's why I called it the Sharp Place. It was a bad place. I didn't like it.
I don't know why My Person brought me there, that day of all days. I already hadn't been feeling good. I'd been throwing up, and my hips hurt and my paws hurt. Even eating grass didn't help. And then My Person brought me to the Sharp Place. I tried to be mad at him, but he seemed so sad about something, so I tried to wag my tail to cheer him up. I didn't even really notice when the Sharp Man poked me.
Then my eyes got heavy and that was the last thing I remember.
Buddy, a voice said. Buddy, wake up.
I opened my eyes and got to my feet, and I realized my paws didn't hurt anymore. I tried a wag, and that was fine, too. I sniffed the air. It smelled like the Play Park and like Our Home and the Car Window. I liked it a lot.
Welcome, Buddy, came the voice again, from behind me.
I turned around, and there was a person there. He wasn't My Person, but he was all safe and good smells, so I trusted him.
Where am I? I said.
You're in the place that Good Boys go, the person said.
I was a Good Boy? I said.
You were a Very Good Boy, he told me.
That was good. I always tried to be a Good Boy. Where's My Person? I asked.
He's still down there, the person said. And he waved his arm and all of a sudden we were in Our Home, and My Person was sitting on the Forbidden Chair and looking sad. Every so often, he'd look over at the Okay Couch, where I was allowed so sit, and his breath would catch because he was very sad. I tried to nuzzle him, but my nose just passed through his hand.
What's happening? I don't understand, I said.
The person sighed. You can't be with him right now, Buddy. I'm sorry. It's the way of things.
I thought about this. So it's like My Person is on the Person Bed, and I'm not allowed there? I said.
Exactly like that, the person said. But he can be with you someday. If you choose to wait for him.
Of course I want to wait for him! I said. Not wait for My Person? Who did this person think he was talking to?
Hold on, Buddy, the person said. He seemed sad about this for some reason. It's not that simple. You have a choice. He got down on one knee and he looked into my eyes. There are bad things in this world, Buddy. Very bad things.
Like Neighbor Cat?
So much worse than her, Buddy. He waved his hand, and I saw what he was talking about. He showed me dark things, that were like snakes and rats, only worse. Worse than the Sucking Machine. Worse than the Sharp Place. They smelled evil.
These are the things that want to hurt him, Buddy. They want to hurt everybody. So you can wait for him, or you can keep him safe. But if you choose to keep him safe, then you can't see him again.
What, never? I said.
The person nodded. Never, Buddy. I'm sorry. Those are the Rules. It's a terrible choice.
I looked at my paws. I didn't want to not see My Person ever again. But I wanted to keep him safe even more.
I know what I have to do, I said, and the person waved his hand, and all of a sudden we were in a place with as many dogs as I have every seen before. More, even.
These are all the Good Boys who chose to keep Their People safe, the person said.
I looked at them all. I couldn't believe it, still. But there's so many of us! I said. How many Good Boys are here?
The person looked down at me. He smiled, but I could tell he was also partly very sad. All of you, Buddy. Every single one.
LoL I cry all the fucking time at all kinds of shit.
This article about the author's cat, Benny.
Having to put down my beloved cat Buttons less than 24 hours ago. She was suffering and had been nearly catatonic the entire day after 5 years of well managed kidney disney. She was 17.
Best cat I've ever met. She slept in our bed, under blankets. Loved to be carried around and held, especially as she got older. Was chatty, loving and just the most wonderful kitty ever.
About 3 years ago, when my favorite uncle died unexpectedly
I was listening to music yesterday and one of the album covers had a really pretty photo of the artist on it and I really wanted to look like her but I don't
Lost my soul-dog to bone cancer at the end of February.
R.I.P. Ripley. Love you, baby-girl.
I cry really easily over random stuff. It was yesterday, over a YouTube video of someone's mom trying silksong. I cried a little when she beat the boss. I couldn't tell you why.
Watched an online screening of 20 Days in Mariupol a few days ago with a Ukrainian charity I donate to. Cried like a baby, just like the first time I saw it.
I like just got into the keep in act3 but will be chasing down the murder to keep people from being killed. Karlach is my favorite and part of my core team but the only member because of her personality. Astrion and laezel are their but its because of their abilities that I like. That being said but not sure. Last thing I can remember is losing it a bit at my dads funeral. I had said I would not be crying when he died because I was all cried out from the alzheimers but it still hit me when the last curtain dropped.
I don't understand why but a certain type of movie trailer or similar with dramatic music makes me cry a little, even if I think it's a stupid movie trailer.
For some reason, music makes me cry all the time, but never a movie or TV show etc. Not once
Speaking of games, ending of Outer Wilds.
spoiler
After discovering everything you can, you still cannot stop the end of the world. Everyone dies. At least you can get the astronaut band to play together one last time.
My single favorite game of all time. Made me cry like a baby.
Okay so I cry about everything, but this year the thing that has made me cry the most (and most recently) is heated rivalry. Even on my umpteenth reheat. No shame, I just love that show and I'm often overwhelmed by the amount of love within the show, that went into making that show, and that people feel towards it. Genuine joy is such a hard thing to come by these days.
Sad parts in TVs/Movies.
I no longer feel emotion when people or events are involved unless someone dies. Then I will feel sad (and may cry) at their funeral, but otherwise don't cry over it.
The Expanse, "you're not finished yet"
Sun in my eyes and wind. Hard to cry when you know you are dead already.
I mainly cry at myself for being pathetic.
I was at a family wedding this weekend, and I teared up at the speeches made by the maid of honor and the best man.
Wout van Aert winning Paris-Roubaix bike race made me cry
My friend just wrote a song about Uvalde. It's the 6 most recent things that made me cry.
Therapy
That my mom will never tell me she's proud of me. I'm 40 I just want to hear it a few times
You made it to 40, you didn't die, and you have enough disposable income to access the internet! I'm proud of you! I hope you are proud of you.
Next to last time was when I read an article about this video at work. Last time was when I got home and watched the video
I've been crying all week. I'm 31 weeks pregnant and just diagnosed with gestational diabetes. It's been a really hard week being bumped up to a high risk pregnancy. I'm so tired, and scared, and now i am on an exhausting eating schedule and plus, no little treats, ever. So many doctors appointments that I am attending alone when my brain is so slow.
That's exhausting and scary. High risk pregnancies are high pressure, and it's having a massive effect on basic day to day things like eating. Eating is supposed to be enjoyable. You've also got loads of doctors appointments which is more effort. How are you doing with it all?
I'm totally burnt out after only a week and a half and I still have 9 weeks to go. My sister and mom are coming over tomorrow to help me meal prep though! So hopefully that makes everything a bit easier. Thank you for checking in on me
That's good mate I'm glad you have support. Don't forget you can vent in WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone anytime you want to
My partner's grandfather passing away last night
The song The Flood by AURORA
It really resonates with me due to my struggles with bipolar disorder