The ups and downs of life
7d 25m ago by piefed.jeena.net/u/jeena in casualconversation@piefed.social
Somehow how difficult life is comes and goes in waves. Right now it's more tough fo me again while I'm approaching 50.
My mother is very sick and the doctors are running out of options, my father got also a terrible diagnosis, the 24h help who works at their home is overwhelmed and is thinking of leaving while me and my siblings are living ver far away and try to deal with all this remotely.
One of my best friends is going though a divorce and is totally destroyed and down and feels alone, its genuinely difficult to get him to see any light at the end of the tunel. Another good friend is after divorce now his ex doesn't let him to see his children and he is panicking and asking for help and advise because I'm also friends with his ex.
And while I got promoted at work it as always resulted in more responsibility and no financial gain and when I had a meeting with my boss he understands my situation but there is no money, we re failing to secure a client and the project will need to let a lot of people go. Theoretically I would be safe because of the extremely strong workers protection in South Korea but that workers protection is also the reason why they started the process of dissolving the Korean legal entity so independent of how good I work I probably will be out of a job before the end of the year. My problem is that I don't speak Korean and all the jobs here require business level of Korean, not sure how I will be able to find a new job.
Oh and in the other project I'm leading which has a customer and makes money three month ago one of the two devs was trying to leave but didn't get the other job and yesterday the other resigned and will be gone in two weeks and takes a lot of knowledge with him even if we have been trying to document as much as possible all the time. And it's in my to come up with a solution for that.
But not all is bad, we are buying our first house and will move in in August. My wife is the loveliest person I could wish for, our children are both healthy and our daughter improved in school imensly during the last school year.
How is your guyses life going? Is it also a constant up and down?
Sorry to hear it, fam. Glad to see that you can appreciate the good along with the bad. Since you ask, yeah it's also up and down for me.
I'm sorry to hear that, it is a lot to deal with!
No. My life has never been constantly up or down. And I really enjoy that. Bad stuff happens but it's mostly annoying and inconvenient at this point. Like yesterday my toilet broke, but it was not a big deal as after some research I was able to resolve the issue and only had to live with a shit filled toilet for a few hours.
I vastly prefer my day to day consistency, hence why I am doing a lot better alone than I ever was when I was in relationships. Ever singe I have been single since 2016 or so, it's been on a smooth upward trajectory in pretty much every aspect of my life.
I also have had a much easier time dealing with shit when it does happen, because my baseline is so much higher than it was, and I don't have to live in fear of my caring about someone else in my life being a 'threat' to my partner. And I think about how the toilet incident day would have had someone panicking and freaking out and demanding we call an emergency plumber and spend $2000, rather than someone who would let me just take my time and fix it for free, or worse, spend the few hours berating and harassing and screaming at me for not magically making it go away instantly.
I have been cruising for about 10 years and I'm loving it, and hope my life continues to cruise until I die. No more drama for me, thanks. Boring stability is the best because it turns trauma into nothing more than a speedbump.