What stereotype about LGBTQ+ people would you happily see disappear forever?
6d 15h ago by piefed.blahaj.zone/u/LadyButterfly in womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone
There's this weird stereotype that keeps popping up that queer culture is oversexed and primarily interested only in sexual matters. That needs to die a horrible, agonizing death.
On the one hand, I understand how you feel.
On the other hand, I think that hetero culture could be so much better if they were more open about, and open to, being naturally sexual.
Hetero culture is really unhealthy in that regard most of the time, and it badly hurts many people regardless of gender
There's a difference between being naturally sexual and being interested only in sexual matters.
The way queer culture is portrayed, you'd think that we're stripping at the drop of a hat—any hat, anywhere—and getting jinky with anybody at any time.
I just find that portrayal really off-putting.
Can't talk. Busy queer wanking
Pretty much anything about trans women's sexuality. I'm able to avoid it most of the time lately, but I've heard things like all trans women are into men, trans women just want to get off to ourselves, being a trans woman is a fetish, all trans women are promiscuous, and a whole lot of much worse stuff I don't want to repeat. We're just people, and while our demographics skew heavily queer we have all the same variability in sexual preferences as any group.
Faking our identity for attention
I’d like to see all stereotypes disappear but if I had to pick one:
The idea that if a bisexual person is in a relationship with the opposite gender that means they are heterosexual now.
That’s not how it works, that’s not how any of this works. Just because I’m with a man doesn’t make me straight. I’m still attracted to women too.
Completely agree. I have had to clearly define that I am still bisexual even when I sleep with men. It’s like one of the defining characteristics of being bisexual.
To add: bisexuals are more likely to cheat than monosexuals.
Straight people cheat all the time. It’s not something bisexuals do at a higher rate than everyone else.
This right here. Dumbest take I ever saw was someone pointing out that me being bisexual means that sexual orientation is a choice since I switch between lesbian and heterosexual. Blew his mind when I asked him about those times I had both in bed...
This is maybe more of a category of stereotypes rather than a specific one, but I've realised that people often still make very binary assumptions about gender and sexuality.
They think that transition is a linear path and that every trans woman wants to get "the surgery" and then the transition will be "complete". In a lesbian couple one of them needs to "be the man". Or with sexuality, you're either attracted to a certain gender or not and there's no in between.
We use labels to help with communication, but reality is so much more nuanced and interesting!
that not all gay guys are feminine. also the top/vs bottom thing is apparently from YAIO and porn where masculinity is very heavily emphasized. also about lesbians, no a straight guy cant convince them to sleep with them, or they are "choosing to be lesbians" this all from PORN.(pay for gay). porn is pretty much well integrated into gay lingo and the community lgbtq+.
That gender and sexuality are static. People can grow, change and figure things out as they go. While some trans people believe they have always been a specic gender regardless of presentation, others are more fluid. Sometimes I feel more into women, sometimes I'm more into men, but I'm still pansexual.
All of them, but if I'd pick anything, it's the whole "gender ideology" bullshit.
If anything, it's gender ideology to:
- forcibly segregate people by gender and limit them into two artificial brackets
- mutilate minors by condemning them to surgeries they don't consent to
- cheer on femicide
- disparage mental health under the guise of 'man up'
- reject self-consensual gender-affirming healthcare like HRT and surgeries for others or oneself
- rape or kill others to ""gain"" a nonexistent honour back
- put much of healthcare behind a (gendered) paywall
- not provide uterine and penile transplants to trans people (part of gender affirming healthcare)
- refuse to carry out an abortion
- force people to birth children and force them out of equal-pay work, controlling them (the economic rapists' mindset)
- and so on
it's never "family values", it's always all about controlling the other