this isn't the way rule
1d 21h ago by sh.itjust.works/u/QuinnyCoded in onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone from sh.itjust.works
I took this meme from N33R@fops.cloud on Mastodon. She's a transfem from Germany (iirc) and has one of the best senses of humor I have ever seen. Give her a follow!
also I visited my sister's place and the really nice stray is still there!! shoutout Chester the kitty!!
Feed the cat a slice of pizza
girls/boys/enbys never go into truscums, /tttt/, any 4tran 4chan communities
measuring every mm of skull of body, dont say that you pass, and 80% real(not cherrypicked) aged cis women are clockly also, because we all humans, we all have human features, we dont have 100% men feature or 100% women feature, womens have also hormonal problems (for eg my mom have DHT 958 pg/ml without her hrt pills, and yeah is visible, also she had 1 ovarie removed, this makes her less women?)
also the pass term is not how much milimeter you pass but how society see and is still depends on mentality, etnics, etc, somewhere nobody suspect "transness", but somewhere they overclock you (for eg in countries with insane beauty standarts)
some cis women which i seen in my life much more "clockly" than me lool, especially not baby hyperdolls
any trans person is real trans person
aaaaaaaaa idk what add more here
every women/men have different features
(whats a hugbox?)
in this context it's where trans people are told they pass when they're still clockable. Depression and dysphoria can lead people to only feel like people are being honest about them when they are tearing eachother to pieces, like 4chan.
which is kinda true but also kinda not. Because like no matter what there's still gonna be parts of you that are still you pre transition, but like you can still have those characteristics and pass well.
For a specific example I posted this in a trans discord server and got all positive responses:
whereas if I posted it to like 4chan and got a "lol you still look like a dude" comments I would feel like they're still being honest instead of hyping me up.
Like as much as I know I do pass now (haven't been misgendered by a customer in months) and that my cis coworkers all have more masculine features than me like one is taller, one has POCS, one has a deeper voice, etc. I still feel like people are just lying to me about it. Just a thing with depression I need to work through I guess 🤷♀️
Most cis women would be called clocky by the people on 4trans. My guess is that many of them were jealous of the toxic girl cliques in highschool and get euphoria from being immature mean girls who tear other women down. There is a difference between giving requested feedback and subjecting yourself to self-flagellation.
Also, you look great and I would never clock you based on how you look. You met the bar for "passing" long ago.
This, 100%. Never forget that they call Michelle Obama, a literal cis woman who went through multiple pregnancies, trans. They can't clock you, they just judge you, and want to scare you. And honestly, considering the plastic monstrosities those freaks say they find attractive these days, getting "clocked" by one of them should be a point of a pride: you actually look like a human being, congrats!
Therapy. You pass 100% in that pic. Go to therapy.
Go to a photo editor and left-right flip/mirror it. You won't recognize yourself as well.
Another thing you can do is set your phone down and record a video of yourself walking or moving. Make sure to put the phone at the eye-height of whoever you're trying to be seen by, and far away enough that lens distortion doesn't affect it much, and close enough that you can still see your face to your feet. Then left-right mirror that video. You'll get the closest you can get to accurately seeing yourself, and the most honest take. If you want to have it be even more accurate, don't watch the video, and forget about it for like six months and then finally watch it then. Time will have passed, and you'll have changed even more yeah, but I find those are the times when I can truly see myself as if I were somebody else and have it feel fair and accurate.
Figuring out how you really look and eliminating bias is SUPER difficult. But once you get it, I've found is very worth it. It does require a bit of vanity. But really, be gentle with yourself, you're way, way more attractive than you can possibly understand right now. And remember, you only get older from here. Take care of yourself and practice moderation, but try to have fun, this is your life.
You look more feminine than some of the ciswomen who live in my neighbourhood. What do you mean you don't look passable?
Stop kicking yourself down and live!
Bitch, that's self-hating. Stop going to 4chan. We can do it here.
Some people internalise the hatred they get from others and think it's true on some level and then seek out hateful spaces like /tttt/ to hear these "harsh truths" because they think people that disagree with that are just coddling them/not being truthful in order not to hurt feelings. They think they're tougher than those who stay in the "hugboxes", aka positive spaces.
Some people go to these spaces as a form of self-harm and have a hard time breaking with the habit of going there even when they know it's harmful.
I mean there are spaces that enforce a toxic positivity where you can't vent or just feel like crap, but they're still preferable to the toxic sludge produced by the self-hate spaces that can linger with you for a long time.
oh - i mean - i understood the rest of the post but didnt know what that wird meant.
interesting. idunno if thats.... if that should be considered self harm... mayb im underthinking rn..
A context where people flatter you and overstate your "pass-ness" for the sake of good vibes
ohnu >o< thanksies for explaining
Hating on groups of people who have done nothing wrong is so fucking stupid.
That's a nice kitty. Would be a shame if someone were to steal it. Can you share the street address?
/tttt/ and it's consequences have been a desaster for all transfems
(also: i feel sorry for any girl that internalized blanchard-lingo)
Poor cutie, I remember being with a girl with similar self-harm tendencies. I tried helping all I could but I ain't a therapist.
Chester about to eat good from the looks of it