in this context it's where trans people are told they pass when they're still clockable. Depression and dysphoria can lead people to only feel like people are being honest about them when they are tearing eachother to pieces, like 4chan.

which is kinda true but also kinda not. Because like no matter what there's still gonna be parts of you that are still you pre transition, but like you can still have those characteristics and pass well.

For a specific example I posted this in a trans discord server and got all positive responses:

whereas if I posted it to like 4chan and got a "lol you still look like a dude" comments I would feel like they're still being honest instead of hyping me up.

Like as much as I know I do pass now (haven't been misgendered by a customer in months) and that my cis coworkers all have more masculine features than me like one is taller, one has POCS, one has a deeper voice, etc. I still feel like people are just lying to me about it. Just a thing with depression I need to work through I guess 🤷‍♀️