Who is/was the biggest jerk in your life?
1d 1h ago by lemmy.world/u/Return_of_Chippy in asklemmy
I don't need actual names. But the context by which you know them should be included. This must be someone you have met or see regularly. Celebs/political people you dont like are not on the table, unless you've met and spent time with them.
It's OP from that other post. The one where they ask a question, get a tonne of good answers then deletes the post.
Hate that guy...
This one makes more sense with Lemmy than it ever did on Reddit. On Reddit, you can (or could anyway) turn off notifications for a post. On Lemmy if you don't want to be spammed by notifications on a post you made, you only have the option of deleting the post. You can't mute it.
Me. Puts me thru so much shit, won't let me sleep and/or be happy, costs me a fortune... The list goes on.
Hey I know that guy! He's me!
Me, too.
Good answer
My ex-husband. Turns out promising to be involved in your child's upbringing and then sitting back and allowing your wife to flounder and drown while taking care of a baby, full time job, and ALL of the housework is the key to making me hate someone.
Add in a sprinkle of derision for anything I liked whether it was movies, music, or games, and there you have it.
Yikes, sounds like a nightmare.
I was lucky enough to be able to walk away at some point. I still have to deal with him occasionally, but it’s much much less and my life is so much better for it.
Be careful who you have kids with, folk! Haha
Good for you! Glad you're in a better situation now.
I set up a large set of forums for a particular fanbase and offered to run it for a news site related to that particular fanbase. The editor said they were not interested. 3 months later a set of forums identical to mine pops up, attached to the news site, and I've lost all my moderators.
So: that editor and those moderators.
Jeeeez that sucks
$$$
Ad revenue I bet, cant collect it all if they dont own the forums
The boy next door. This fucking psychopath decided from a very early age that he enjoyed hurting other kids. Me, specifically, he singled out because I always fought back, always had a big reaction, and always got involved when he started beating on the littler kids (especially the autistic kid around the corner.) If you can imagine a stereotypical childhood bully thing, he did it. And he laughed the entire time until we finally pulled together and got him caught doing it for fun.
Unsurprisingly, having mastered torturing kids in his own neighborhood, he went on to join the military.
I've met Elon Musk but I'm still gonna go with my ex-wife as being the biggest piece of shit on the planet who was in my life.
Good one
My manager, several jobs back. He put me on the layoff list so he could take my job (which he was completely unqualified for)
Or maybe the VP above him. Agree to lay me off because I was fine with being first in or last out, but drew the line at being both first in and last to leave (in a startup where everyone was working insane hours so I seriously considered working overnight as the shorter workday)
Or maybe the CFO because he let me spend money buying my options on the way out in case they succeeded (it was like $200), then immediately issued new options to zero out the ones we got
You know, that was just a really toxic startup
Congrats on getting out of there, even if it was in a shitty way
For sure, thanks. No one should have to go through a place like that
Mine was a guy I knew when I was 19-20ish. I worked as a laborer for some carpenters. I did it in summers and chunks of winters through college. He was one of the crew I'd ride in with every day. He was a 50 year old middle school bully essentially. He was also a very small man (probably 5 foot even) and I think me being very large is part of why he zeroed in on me. Long story short, by the time I finally had enough I threatened him that we'd settle things when we got back to the shop. Beating him down would have been less than a challenge. He hit me with a line I'll never forget "You can try, but I'll show ya how a pistol makes a big man small". He eased up a bit after that but only a little and I stopped working with that crew a few weeks later.
Dad, and it's not even close.
Fair
Same.
cw: mental health/suicide
Failed suicide attempt last Monday, and then suddenly he cares and is nice and thoughtful, helps me, etc etc. Really wish I could've kept those pills in me for like an extra half hour before I had to throw up. Fml
I used to call him my brother. In reality he’s a half- brother and after what he put me through I will not acknowledge any relation to him.
I always knew he was insufferable, ill-tempered, a know-it-all. But I finally got to see him in full form after my dad died and he and I had to administer the estate. A short list of things he did to me during that time…
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Broke a promise to split all estate expenses 50/50 until the property was sold, sticking me with mortgage payments and the property tax bill.
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Offered zero help in cleaning the house, choosing instead to show up once a week and loudly criticize the job I was doing, in addition to insulting me every chance he got.
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Took pains to belittle the fact that I took time for myself, played in bands around town, and otherwise looked out for my mental health.
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Once I got an offer on the house, demanded that I play head games with the buyer to get a better offer, including not replying to messages. The buyer backed out and we lost the sale. Threw several temper tantrums about the price of the house the whole time, despite the house being listed for exactly its fair market value.
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Assisted me with a very expensive car repair after I got in a wreck. I made every attempt I could to pay him back over time, and he eventually got impatient and threatened me to pay him in full immediately or he’d take me to court. Proceeded to launch into a tirade over how I was to blame for all his financial problems.
There’s more but I think you get the picture.
The guy who lives below us thinks his appartment is a music studio, or at least that's what he says. He plays loud music at all hours and is hostile, racist, and threatening when we ask him to turn it down at night. We're moving soon.
Edit: maybe not the biggest jerk of my entire life, but the biggest jerk in my life right now.
Nah that's absolutely dickhead behavior.
My colleague. He's so boomer, doesn't listen to anyone, talks over peoole, is passive-aggressive etc
Annoying
Guy who decided to try his best to make my life miserable when the girl he fancied liked me better than him.
Turns out he was better at screwing up his own life rather than others, so that was amusing to watch from a distance.
Brutal lolol
A classmate at school. Spent an entire hour long class poking me in the leg with a sharp pencil under the table. It wasn't funny the first time and it wasn't funny the 100th time. Not to mention the daily abuse and mocking me for what I wore, what I looked like, how I sounded etc.
Genuinely I regret not taking the pencil that day and jamming it in the fuckers eye. He would have deserved it 100%. There's very few people personally known to me that I've hated. But I really did hate that cunt.
Agitating but hey, you kept yourself out of prison.
Maternal grandfather. I went no contact with him after my grandmother went through extended, horrific medical circumstances before dying. He always has been a piece of shit, but it got so much more apparent during that period. In a moment of lucidity in her hospice bed, my grandmother told us he had been abusing her for the entirety of their 59 year marriage. My mom doesn't talk about her childhood, and my aunt lives 2,000 miles away with her family. Our first kid met him one time at 3 months old (it was a surprise visit while we were in town and staying at my parents' house), and our second has never met him and never will.
He is currently in a memory care facility, and I plan to see him one more time, when I literally piss on his grave.
Definitely my dad. Just an irresponsible, immature, shallow, hedonistic, unstable, violent and dishonest silly man. And from what I understand, my grandpa might have been even worse (but I don't think my dad met him until he was in his 30s). I've had to rewrite my brain many times to unfuck whatever his presence fucked up but, as malleable as the mind and brain are, some things can't change and I just have to live with them.
He wasn't 99% evil or anything, but that's rare if even possible. He was definitely more selfish, problematic and uncaring than not though, and he messed with enough lives that Hell is more than warranted for him, I think. 🤔
There are a few people who have acted like jerks towards me in the past, but I don't know what those people were dealing with in their lives during that time so I'm not going to dismiss them entirely as a person because of it. Them acting that way is more about them than it's about me anyway. Some people just can't help themselves. I don't want to be around these people but I also don't blame them for it as if they could choose to be otherwise.
So you're in the camp of bad people don't exist inherently? I've talked to people who hold that opinion. I don't agree but I'm glad there is that kind of optimism out there.
It's not so much that I don't think bad people exist - I just don't believe in them authoring that bad behaviour and then being personally responsible for it as if they could've acted otherwise. I think free will is an illusion - we're victims of our genes and environment. I view "bad people" the way I view a grizzly bear wandering around a neighbourhood: it's a problem that needs to be dealt with but I don't blame the bear for being dangerous as if it could choose not to be. With violent criminals this might mean locking them up, but not as punishment - just to protect others. They're broken people and it's not their fault. If I was in their place I'd act the same way.
This all applies to good people as well btw.
Ah you're a Robert Sapolsky person. That's a way to look at the world, not one I agree with but I don't think its necessarily harmful.
Definitely my father in law.
It's hard to decide which screwball thing to post about. My favorites are where he said he never wanted to see his daughter again, and when my other half said "ok" and walked out of his life, he wasted money on lawyers and such to try and sue us for custody of our child, or the time he blamed my wife and I for the 2019 flood in Tulsa. He literally was mad (and threatened to sue, his signature move) that my wife and I caused the flood. Like we went to the spillway and opened the tainter gates ourselves.