This is a false premise. Instead of choosing which evil we want to accept, we can choose which evil we prefer to resist.

The answer you're looking for is, feed two birds with one scone.

Feels like asking if there's a show where the main characters never eat together. Sex and food are sorta what we do. Like as a species. A show would have to be very limited in scope to leave one of those things out.

Regardless what's going on with your friend you posted the same long screed in 6 places.

I'm gonna be real enough with you to say that behavior is screaming a big need for external validation. Or at the least, a marker for high personal drama. In my experience, those friends will wear out my social battery real quick and "it's too much to hang out with me" is exactly how those folks can feel.

I honestly wish the best for you, your friend, and any friendship y'all manage between you. Just don't forget to monitor the emotional load that you're asking folks around you to carry.

I came to post this. So there's two of us at least.

We call it microdosing now

I literally took the time to ask you another question in an effort to meet you where you are.

You asked us to explain something to you. I asked you to explain where you're confused. It's an even trade.

Is there a guide somewhere?

Yes. I linked you to one that looks pretty comprehensive and well explained.

Do you have the base knowledge needed to get value from that guide? Who knows?

Let's try this a different way instead of offering nothing and expecting strangers to fish for exactly the magic words that will get you from current understanding to your desired understanding.

After watching the YouTube tutorials you mentioned and after reading the how-to guide that I linked...

What is an aspect of Usenet that you still don't understand?

Quick search showed this: https://www.howtogeek.com/71315/the-how-to-geek-guide-to-getting-started-with-usenet/

I got started with a similar how to about 10yrs ago. I'm a techie but I don't think it's gonna be too hard learn the ropes if you're willing to search around and can follow basic instructions